I enjoy video's of women masturbating and even woman-on-woman encounters. I do not mentally place myself in the situation or fantacize about being with them in any way... I just enjoy it and it actually builds sexual energy which I share with my willing wife ( I am in my fifties and need all the help I can get.) What do you think? Is this going to destroy me? Should I discuss this issue with my wife?

Dear Wondering,

We are not qualified to comment on the religious aspects of various sexual preferences, but note that if mere thoughts were wrong, we would all be in a lot of trouble. In our experience, visual stimulation for men isn't problematic, unless taken to extremes or at the cost of real life encounters.